Vaguely quoting one of my favorite motivational speakers, you can be in a stadium with a thousand people by your side, even ten thousand, but still feel uniquely alone. Like you are the last person on earth, the sole survivor of an apocalypse that is your loneliness.
Aloneness – this basically describes your alone time that you need to reflect or think. Every human should do this. Helps a lot to figure out your baggage.
On the other hand, loneliness isn’t about self prescribed alone time. It is about longing for friendship, loved ones, companionship, romantic and/or sexual relationships, psychological urges, absence of a social circle, confidante (someone you can confide in), etc.
Being lonely is toxic and bad for your psychology. You end up spending more time thinking about what you want without ever making a move to get it. Whereas you could spend more time trying to fulfil your psychological needs.
Loneliness is a state of mind. A lot of things contribute to it. Some people aren’t great communicators, others just shy, others too smart, some don’t fit in society, some are victims of racism, sexism, and sheer discrimination
I feel for those who go through these kinds of mental torture. Yes, loneliness is mental torture. Even psychological torture. As humans we are social animals with a craving for acceptance and validation. So I understand that. I don’t know much about how to break the chain of loneliness (hell, I can’t get rid of it too) but if you are out there, you feel lost, you feel perfectly alone in a stadium of fifty thousand, you feel like the last man on earth, I want you to know I’m with you, I see you, I feel your loneliness, because it resonates within me, I am part of you, and we shall get through all this together, we shall come out stronger than we were before.
Peace. I’m out.